Tinder is one of the biggest dating apps in the world. Millions of active users log in every day. Even with millions of users it can be difficult to find a friend with benefits on Tinder. This is because Tinder is developed more toward being a dating app than an FWB app.

Don’t let Tinder’s focus on traditional relationships scare you away though. There are many apps you can choose from, people use apps like FWBtinder, Okcupid, CoffeeMeetsBagel and so on to find friends with benefits relationships every day. What makes the difference is how you use these apps. This article is a quick guide to using apps like Tinder to find a FWB.

Good Pictures Are a Must

Dating apps are all about profile pictures.

Even looking for an FWB on dating apps requires good pictures. In fact, it may matter more as a big portion of an FWB relationship is physical attraction. With this in mind, it is important to have some good pictures ready for your profile.

We recommend having someone take pictures for you that you use just for your dating profile. That way you aren’t using photos that are associated with you elsewhere. Many people like to keep their dating profile low key or private and this can help. Photos that are taken just for your dating profile can also be tailored for that purpose.

So, what pictures should you use? If we could only give you one tip, it would be to have plenty of pictures of you smiling. Luckily, we can give you more than one tip.

Having a friend take pictures of you instead of using the selfie function on your phone is one of the next best steps you can take. A selfie is not a flattering photo and it doesn’t capture the whole moment. Ask a friend to take photos of you engaging in activities that you enjoy such as reading, sports, or other natural pictures that will highlight you in a positive environment.

Make sure that you keep your profile photos up to date. Adding a photo every month or so helps to show changes but also lets other users know you are still active.

Craft Your Text Profile with Care

Mentioning sex in your profile is probably one of the first ways to get shutdown. Instead, create a description of yourself or activities that you enjoy. If you can do so in a witty way, you are likely to score far more points from someone who reads your bio.

A good joke also works but make sure you keep jokes on reserve for messages and dates.

Not everyone reads the profile section but if someone stumbles across a blank profile, it is likely to be noticed. Make sure that you at least put something interesting there. A good rule of thumb is to give other users something to comment about here.

Who Do You Swipe On?

In order to get matches for a FWB relationship you are going to need to swipe yes on the right people. You are limited in your number of swipes each day, so you have to be strategic. Do not swipe yes on every profile you view. Who do you swipe yes on?

The obvious people you want to avoid are those who say they are looking for a serious relationship. You will also want to avoid those who say that they are not interested in sex, or anything similar. 

Look for someone with a profile that looks active. People who are busy are often also interested in FWB relationships as they don’t have time for serious dating. Most importantly though, look for someone that interests you.

Catch Their Attention With The First Message

Your first message after you match with someone is your chance to hook them. You need to make that message count. Coming up with a good pickup line is a must for scoring an FWB. Using something from the user’s profile such as their name, something in their photo, or something they wrote in their bio will show that you took the time to craft something for them.

Keep In Mind, Every Situation Is Different

Something you will want to keep in mind is that every situation is different. If you feel that something isn’t working for you, you will need to adjust to compensate for it. That might mean trial and error. Use your best judgement to feel the situation out.

One thing is for sure, if you don’t get out there and try, you won’t find a friend with benefits on dating apps. You need to sign up for an account and start searching. Don’t spend too much time setting up your profile, only what you need to.